Tuesday, March 31, 2015

From One Creative to Another

We've all heard it before: "Comparison is the thief of joy." But even though we constantly hear it, we still do it. If even for a slight second, we all have those moments when we think we should be doing what the next person in our field is doing. Or maybe we feel slighted because a certain piece we wrote wasn't published, while the next person's was. Or their art was purchased, while we have yet to make one sale.

I've been struggling with comparison a lot lately. Still unaware of exactly where I plan on going with this writing thing, this blog is the only thing that is constant and for sure. Day in and day out I think about stopping my freelance writing because I don't want to write about the subject matter that publications pay for. I think about stopping my editing and proofreading services, just because sometimes I feel it’s pointless. And a lot of the time, I feel like scrapping all of it so I can focus on writing and completing my book. To then end up letting days go by without working on it because I feel my story is useless. 

Thursday, March 26, 2015

"To All the Little Black Girls With Big Names"

The issue of names that sound “black” has been around for as long as I can remember. I used to hear about it a lot when I was growing up, as I know a lot of people who chose to give their child a more "professional" sounding name. These parents validated their decision with the excuse of, “A certain type of name will help my child ‘get ahead in life.’”

To each its own… do with your kids what you will. But this issue of name discrimination seems ridiculous to me. Take Quvenzhane Wallis (pictured above). Her name has nothing to do with her acting skills.

Just because some black women have “Big Names,” does not mean they are less capable of being successful- even though our society still tends to judge books by their covers…   

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Material Girl: Lost Queens

"Lost Queens is an accessory shop with pieces for the modern day Queens. We all have a Goddess inside of us ready to break free; our pieces are the armor you put on to go out and conquer the world!" - Lost Queens

Thursday, March 19, 2015

4 Ways To Tap Into Your Purpose

Because I'm always talking about finding your passion and how important it is to live with a purpose, I found it fitting to repost some great words of wisdom from Amber Janae of Who Is Amber Janae

Before I had indefinitely settled in my writing I never once considered what my life purpose was. I kind of just did whatever there was to do at that moment. Whether it be school, working a full-time job or both, a purposeful life wasn’t something I always took into consideration. I had always had a love for writing. I wrote everything on my heart and mind. I carried around notebooks just as I had once seen Harriet the Spy do on film. I admired her growing up. But, as I got older and having passion seemed uncool, I no longer cared to feed my soul. So I stopped writing. I can say that before I had begun to take my craft seriously there was nothing that I lived for. I was just simply flying by, by the seat of my panties hoping that life would cut me a break.
The more I chose to live an unfulfilled life the more unhappy I was. I was probably twenty years old when something in me clicked. I instantly knew that I had to get to work. Something in me was like get off your ass and begin your entrepreneurial journey. STILL, it wasn’t as easy as I imagined it to be. Life was tugging me to make all these changes and I was comfortable as I was. I had sort of began this journey with no real idea as to what I was working toward.
One day, I decided to jot down my thoughts after had given up on writing for years. I shared my work with a friend who at the time had no idea I knew how to write. Their encouraging words is what kept me pushing forward until one day I was back to doing what I loved daily. Who you are called to be is far more powerful than who you presently are. Life will pull you into that person, but if you’re resistant you’ll stay stagnant. We are destined to live a fruitful, purposeful life, as well as being far removed from our old habits and ways. As I once carried on in life wondering what my purpose was, I am sure you all do as well. Here’s 4 sure ways to discover your purpose in life.

Read More: Here

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

My Journal

I once heard someone say, "Writing in a journal is like having a relationship with your mind."

With almost everything I do involving typing, it's a nice feeling to pick up a pen and write on paper. Who knew that something so simple would bring about such relaxation, relief, and comfort?

My journal is the only "person" who really knows me. It's the one person who knows my inner most thoughts and won't share them with anyone. Even though I never get a response, my journal is basically my therapist.

I can share any and everything and never be judged or talked about. And with all my thoughts located in one place, I am always able to review and re-read my past feelings and see how I have changed and grown from those experiences.

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

The Power of Your Circle

"Spend time with people who are heading in the same direction which you want to go.  Choose people who will make you want to improve, thrive; not one who will give you permission to be complacent, small-minded, and big mouthed. Choose to spend your time with people who use their words wisely, which in turn will cause you to do the same." -Unknown

The phrase, “Association brings about assimilation” is defined as the above. Assimilating to the people around us can happen without us even noticing. My association with a friend who spoke negatively about everything brought about an undesirable assimilation. Whether it was about a TV show or random people who walked passed us, said friend never had anything nice to say. I was aware of her attitude from the minute we started hanging out, but I laughed it off and never thought twice about it. After a while, I noticed my attitude started to mirror hers. She and I were hanging out so much that I didn’t realize her negativity was rubbing off on me.

I never noticed my attitude change until someone told me I acted just like her. They didn’t say it in a mean way; they were simply pointing out that we had a lot in common. However, that comparison bothered me because I was fully aware of the negative demeanor my friend had. But what I was oblivious to be that I was now acting just like her.

Read More: Here

Thursday, March 5, 2015

Ahyiana Angel: Author

Meet California based Author Ahyiana Angel. Her first published book, Preseason Love, was released on October 21, 2014.

"I want to write for women like me. Professional women who are 
career driven, ambitious, and adventurous, but still finding their 
way through the ups and downs in life and love." 

After starting her writing career in the summer of 2013, Ahyiana's freelance writing has been featured on Essence.com, xoJane.com, and several others. And with her blog, Life According to Her, Ahyiana talks about all things relationship, travel, and career related.  

In the interview below Ahyiana chats about Preseason Love, the publishing process, and what her career path change from PR to writing has done for her.

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

The Five People You Meet In Heaven

"Eddie is a grizzled war veteran who feels trapped in a meaningless life of fixing rides at a seaside amusement park. As the park has changed over the years -- from the Loop-the-Loop to the Pipeline Plunge -- so, too, has Eddie changed, from optimistic youth to embittered old age. His days are a dull routine of work, loneliness, and regret.
Then, on his 83rd birthday, Eddie dies in a tragic accident, trying to save a little girl from a falling cart. With his final breath, he feels two small hands in his -- and then nothing. He awakens in the afterlife, where he learns that heaven is not a lush Garden of Eden, but a place where your earthly life is explained to you by five people who were in it. These people may have been loved ones or distant strangers. Yet each of them changed your path forever.

One by one, Eddie's five people illuminate the unseen connections of his earthly life. As the story builds to its stunning conclusion, Eddie desperately seeks redemption in the still-unknown last act of his life: Was it a heroic success or a devastating failure? The answer, which comes from the most unlikely of sources, is as inspirational as a glimpse of heaven itself." - Mitch Albom