Thursday, January 29, 2015

Waiting Is The Answer

When I was 13 I wanted a pair of blue Dickey overalls. At the time these were the must have item at my middle school. And because all the cool girls had this exact pair of overalls, I had to have them too. My mom agreed to buy them for me, but said I had to wait until payday. Which wouldn't have been a big deal if that day wasn't a little over a week and a half away. I remember that waiting period being the longest week and a half of my life; I wanted those overalls so bad.

Finally when payday came, my mom took me to the store. When we got there I spotted the blue overalls immediately. But then I spotted a blue and white striped pair that I liked even more. The sales lady explained that these overalls had just arrived the day before. Long story short, I got the striped pair and received plenty of compliments at school. I assume this happened because my overalls were different from what everyone else had.

Tuesday, January 27, 2015

The Central Park Five

In the early hours of April 20, 1989, the body of a woman barely clinging to life was discovered in Central Park. Assaulted and left for dead, the 28-year-old jogger, Trisha Meili, would survive grave injuries and a coma with no memory of the events. Within days of the attack, McCray, 15; Richardson, 14; Salaam, 15; Santana, 14; and Wise, 16, implicated themselves in Meili's rape and beating after hours of psychological pressure and aggressive interrogation at the hands of seasoned homicide detectives.

The police announced to a press hungry for sensational crime stories that the young men had been part of a gang of teenagers who were out "wilding," assaulting joggers and bicyclists in Central Park that evening. The ensuing media frenzy was met with a public outcry for justice. The young men were tried as adults under New York laws of the day — and convicted, despite inconsistent and inaccurate confessions, DNA evidence that excluded them, and no eyewitness accounts that connected them to the victim.

Thursday, January 22, 2015

Accepting Help Doesn’t Take Away Your Independence

When did being dependent become such a no-no? In today’s world women, are constantly bombarded with the notion that being dependent is a bad thing. And with the examples displayed in weekly reality shows, of women using their looks for material gratification, it makes sense.

But what if you need help? What if the people in your life understand your vision and want to help you achieve it? Do you pass on the offer because you think you have to do it on your own? There is nothing wrong with receiving help from a significant other, family, or friends. Many women strive to be different than what we are portrayed as on TV, but in doing so, we sometimes close a helpful door, a door that could help us, reach the next level.

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Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Taking it to Another Level

May 3rd of 2011 will always be a significant day to me. It was the day I started my blog. The Essence of Me was started out of a need for expression. Back then I had no real direction for my blog; I didn’t know any other bloggers, didn’t care anything about gaining readers, and never thought about the impact my blog could possibly ever have.
What I did know was that the sole purpose of The Essence of Me was to provide and outlet, as I just wanted to write. The only thing I put effort into was my blog’s title and tagline. This was important because I wanted to pick a name that meant something to me, a name that would be a true representation of my blog’s content.
I can’t remember where or when the word essence came to mind, but after looking up its definition I knew I was on the right track; the word had to be included in my blog’s title.
Essence: the basic, real, and invariable nature of a thing or its significant individual feature or features.
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Thursday, January 15, 2015

Desiree Robolt: Makeup Artist

Meet Houston, TX based Makeup Artist Desiree Robolt. My fellow Panameña's love for makeup started as a child, when she participated in Panamanian folkloric dancing called “Baile Típico." In addition to wearing the traditional Panamanian attire, makeup was a part of the full look. 

"My mom would always do my makeup 

and from the first placement of eyeshadow, 

I fell in love."

After falling in love with makeup at an early age, Desiree didn't start experimenting on other people until her first year of college. It was during those college years that Desiree not only honed her makeup skills, but it's also when she turned her love of makeup in to a money maker. She started charging people $5 to do their makeup, all while speaking her future into existence: "I need to become a makeup artist," Desiree would tell her friends.  

The fulfillment of this came in 2012 when Desiree graduated from college with a BA in Psychology. That same year she started her freelance company, Desirable Faces Makeup Artistry. In addition, Desiree is currently working toward a MS in Human Resource Development at the University of Texas at Tyler.

Desiree and I chatted about how she balances her passion for makeup, becoming a certified artist, and much more. 

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

R&B Quotable: Jazmine Sullivan

"Yeah my hair and my ass fake, but so what?
I get my rent paid with it and my tits get me trips
To places I can't pronounce right
He said he'd keep it coming if I keep my body tight
And them b!tches stay mad cause I'm living the life
‘Cause I'm living the life, oh
Most people think I'm shallow
‘Cause I'm always dressed like I'm going out to the club
But I gotta keep up cause it's new chicks poppin' up everyday
And they want the same thang"

Jazmine Sullivan

Thursday, January 8, 2015


"I wont describe what I look like.
Whatever you're thinking, it's probably worse."

August (Auggie) Pullman was born with a facial deformity that prevented him from going to a mainstream school—until now. He’s about to enter fifth grade at Beecher Prep, and if you’ve ever been the new kid, then you know how hard that can be. The thing is Auggie’s just an ordinary kid, with an extraordinary face. But can he convince his new classmates that he’s just like them, despite appearances? Amazon

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Your Struggles Are Important

A new year brings about new people, new things, new happiness, new changes, and new opportunities. But without a doubt, a new year also brings about new struggles. And because of that, the first post of 2015 is about struggles.

Even though we hate experiencing them, struggles are an important necessity in our lives. Struggles give us character, and overcoming them shape us into better people.