Monday, December 29, 2014

2014 Reflections


Each year is a learning experience. We literally start out each year being one way, and close out that same year completely different. I've always been aware of how I change every year. But nothing has been more evident and clear to me than the growth I've experienced in 2014. 

On the surface (to others) it may not look like much has changed in my life. But my mindset on many things is different. As we all know, life is a constant learning experience. Whether you choose to learn from the lessons presented is your choice. 

Monday, December 22, 2014

Favorite Books of 2014



“Give me a man or woman who has read a thousand books and 
you give me an interesting companion. 

Give me a man or woman who has read
perhaps three and you give me a very dangerous 
enemy indeed.” -Anne Rice
                                                                           



Thursday, December 18, 2014

Setbacks are Inevitable, Don't Be Swayed


For the last ten years of my life I’ve had the desire to write a book. In the beginning, I had no idea what this book would be about or if people would even be interested in reading my words. A little over two years ago I started freelance writing. In doing so, I have found my confidence as a writer. Some of that confidence comes from readers who tell me they are inspired by my words.
With that, my desire to write a book has only increased. Finally in 2013 I picked a concept and started writing a children’s book, which is loosely based on my childhood experiences. When I started this book I didn’t know what I was doing, I just knew I wanted to write it. So I did just that. I had no idea that books were supposed to be targeted to certain age groups, nor did I know all the important components that go into writing for children.
So without proper knowledge I confidently entered, what I thought was complete, manuscript into a children’s book writing contest (the winner would get a book contract and all the distinction that comes along with winning a national writing contest).



Tuesday, December 16, 2014

What Does This Have To Do With Me?



There it was, plain as day on Tumblr: “Before you discuss someone and what they’re doing, stop and think, “What the f$%^ does this have to do with me.”

That, along with “Their business is not going to pay my rent on the first” have been my mottos all year long. I often repeat either one to myself over and over; especially when that one messy/nosey person comes around gossiping about another person’s business. In the last couple of years I have become so engrossed in my own endeavors that I really have not had, and still do not have time to discuss matters that don’t directly relate to my life. It may seem selfish to some, but being involved in other people’s business can be very draining. It’s also a huge waste of my time, time that can be put towards something productive.

However, there once was a time when I in fact found gossip entertaining. Whether it was people I knew or celebs who I didn’t. I was once all to ready to hear or read about the latest tea, i.e. someone’s life drama.

Read more: Here

Thursday, December 11, 2014

Tatyana Dyer: Fearlessly Sharing her Passion



A “Cornucopia of Creativity” is how I like to describe Tatyana Dyer. Born and bred in Los Angeles, CA, Tatyana can pretty much do everything from photography to comedy writing. Anything she puts her mind to she succeeds at. As Tatyana continues to pursue her creative outlets, she has been pulled in a completely new direction. Under the moniker Edjo Uto, Tatyana has leapt face forward into the world of music production.
Great talent brings about the issue of self-doubt. When you put something special out into the world, you subject yourself to all forms of criticism. With her aggressively chill personality, Tatyana exudes confidence. But just like the rest of us, she had to push herself to open up and share her most liberating venture to date. In the interview below, Tatyana talks about that experience and more.

Read More: Here

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

A Journey That Began With a Hair Cut


"A woman cutting her hair off isn't a sign of her going off the deep end. Understand the beauty and strength that it takes for a woman to come out of hiding to be all that she is destine to be. No it's not for everyone. But if you so happen to come across a woman with such confidence, understand you have come in contact with a woman of strength; who isn't seeking approval. Because if she was, she would have stayed in hiding under her hair!!" - Mercedes Snowden


Thursday, December 4, 2014

THE "AND COUNTING" COLLECTION


Instead of voicing my opinion on the murders of Eric Garner and Michael Brown, I thought I would focus on another aspect- people who are doing their part to spread awareness and educate the masses. This problem has been going on for years, and is continuing to spiral out of control.

"GLOSSRAGS' premiere design bears the names of six black males murdered by police or "vigilante justice" citizens, beginning in 1955 with Emmett Till & pausing in 2012 with Jordan Davis. Since its April release, more have lost their lives at the hands of injustice."


Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Being Thankful in Your Current Position




“He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have.” ― Socrates
One of the main things I struggle with is the fact that I am not where I feel I should be. This goes for many areas in my life, including romance and career. With my mind being so focused on how to achieve my goals and conquering the next big obstacle in my life, I never sit and appreciate the things I have and how far I’ve come. Basically, I’m never content in my current place.

Some may argue that being content is not something to strive for because it can lead to complacency. When I refer to being content, I mean it in terms of being happy with where you are. And not always complaining about not being where you feel you should be.  
As Socrates said, when you’re not content with what you currently have, you will never be content when you achieve what you’ve been seeking… the cycle will always continue.


Monday, November 24, 2014

Remember to Pamper Yourself


Imagine a life where you are running around consumed by your daily routine. A daily routine that consists of the usual craziness, but also requires you to constantly give so much to others; only to end up not having time for yourself. I’m sure most of us don’t have to imagine this, it’s our reality. As women, wives, and mothers it’s in us to be there for our loved ones. It’s a part of who we are. We stay true to our nature and are a support system for friends and family. We also work hard in our chosen/demanding professions, all while neglecting ourselves.

While there is nothing wrong with being there for others, it’s important that we remember to make time to relax. Just as everyone else’s life and problems are important, ours are too. And taking time to step away from everything to do something for yourself is just as important.

Read More: Here

Thursday, November 20, 2014

I Don't Want The Norm


I don’t see myself living “that” life. You know the one, it involves a big house, white picket fence, and an SUV…a husband who works a 9-5, comes home and interacts with the children. Then the kids get sent to bed, some TV watching happens, then the parents themselves go to bed, only to repeat the same process again and again. With the only outlet being the ray of light that the upcoming weekend offers. Not knocking you if that’s your life. I just don’t see that for myself.

I’ll take a nice apartment in a high-rise, overlooking Central Park or the Hudson River. Or an apt in some other big city, even in a different country. I’ll take a husband who is creative (and makes a living from it) and some out of the box kids. The point is I don’t want routine or the norm. I want every experience to be completely different and new from what I currently see and know.

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

"I No Longer..."


This speaks to the very place I'm currently in, in my life. With this attitude, things seems to be going a lot smoother. And I'm happy for the peace that no longer having patience for certain things has brought about.


Thursday, November 13, 2014

Hip Hop Quotable: Kendrick Lamar


"She independent, she handle her business
 She believe in God and no other religions
Never in competition when it comes to her friends
She's dependable, she set her own trends
A confidant, a mediator
So sweet, every flavor
Just a conversation with her, doing you a favor"

Kendrick Lamar


Tuesday, November 11, 2014

What Veterans Day Means to Me

Veterans day comes around every year, and sadly many of us look at it as simply a day off from work or school. But with having so many family members who chose to serve, and are still serving; this day is very important to me.

I'm especially thankful to my father and my brother. My father served 22 years in the United States Marine Corp (pictured above on the right). My brother served 8 1/2 years in the United States Army and fought TWICE in "Operation Iraqi Freedom."

Today, and every day, I am ever so thankful for the extreme sacrifices both of them and all other veterans have made for me to continue to enjoy and live in freedom.


Thursday, November 6, 2014

Get Rid of Anything Stagnant in Your Life, Friends Included



“Ask God to remove those who hinder you,” is a statement I heard a lot while growing up. Every time someone said it I thought, why would we need to pray for people to be removed, when we are the ones who allow them to be around us in the first place? I got my answer when I reached my mid-twenties. That’s when I started to question the people around me and decided to pray for help on weeding out the bad ones.


As usual, I wanted God to answer my prayer right away. And when I didn’t see anything happening with the people around me, I figured my relationships were fine. So I moved on and stopped praying about it, and eventually forgot all about the prayer.

True to who He is, God answered my prayer in His own time. And out of what seemed like nowhere, for various reasons friends started to leave all at once. This was a hard time in my life (don’t pray for something you’re not ready to receive) because I felt so alone. And because I’d forgot about that specific prayer, I walked around feeling like there was a conspiracy in which everyone decided to keep away from me.


Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Material Girl: Pearl Jewelry

Pearls. Pearls. Pearls.

Here I go again with my accessory obsession! This time its pearl everything!!!
Such a classic item like pearls are being transitioned into fun, cute, and stylish
items that can be worn whenever, with anything.

Thursday, October 30, 2014

We actually are perfect


What is perfect? Is anyone actually perfect? What does the word perfect even mean? The dictionary defines it as “having no mistakes or flaws; completely correct or accurate.”

With this definition we have trained ourselves to think perfection is unobtainable. We think of ourselves as being imperfect because we do have flaws, we constantly make mistakes, and we’re not always correct or accurate. Thus, causing us to think perfect is something we will never be.

And because we feel we can never be perfect, we tend to look down on ourselves and develop low self-esteem and feelings of inadequacy, doubt, and defeat; as we think we will never measure up to a certain standard. 

Friday, October 24, 2014

Call Me Crazy, But I Like Clarity


“Tamika you’re so black and white. You never see the gray in anything,” a friend once said to me. Feeling that it was irrelevant, I dismissed the comment and never gave it a second thought.

But recently I came across an article that was about seeing the gray in situations. The article caused me to think about said comment on a deeper level. A level that would help me understand the point my friend was trying to make, and also help me understand my personality better.

I have come to realize that I really do only deal with things in black and white, with minimal shades of gray. I like when things are straight up and honest. With me it’s either this or that, because in my mind it can’t possibly be both. My black and white mind frame comes from a desire to take everyone’s word as it is (even though that hasn’t always worked in my favor). It also comes from the annoyance of dealing with people who use that gray area as a way to be wishy-washy.

Read More: Here

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Live Life to the Fullest



If I had to share one tip, it would be for everyone to live life to the fullest; everyday- no matter what it takes. This is so important to me because I don't ever want to look back on life and regret not taking a chance or not doing something new.

The idea of living my life to the fullest came to mind recently when I wrote a letter to my 10-year-old self. In doing so I thought about how carefree children really are. Their minds can’t even start to comprehend the things adults stress over and worry about. 

The main piece of advice I offered my young self in the letter was to enjoy my carefree days. Enjoy every bit of depending on my parents and only having to worry about what I was wearing to school the next day; because these days wouldn't last forever.

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

"You Don't Sound Black"

I never noticed that "I didn't sound black" until I went to college and my peers constantly pointed it out to me.

"You talk like a white girl," "Where are you from?” “We don't talk like that around here.”


After constantly hearing this, I remember thinking, "I don't sound black because I use proper English?" But with the ever present desire to fit in, I never acknowledged the comments. And sometimes felt embarrassed because I didn’t talk like everyone else. 

That was completely different from how I felt while growing up. Before college I loved my proper English. I would always (and to this day still) correct my parents’ mix of Spanish and English words. The English language and the pronunciation of it has always been a part of me.

Thursday, October 9, 2014

Material Girl: Custom Color Sneakers


Since moving to NYC I have kind of become a sneaker head. So I'm always
happy to come across shoes that are different from the norm, yet still fashionable.

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Two Weeks without Social Media and I Didn’t Die


I went to Panamá for two weeks in August to visit family. In addition to all the excitement leading up to my trip, I was very anxious about the fact that my grandparents do not have Wi-Fi in their home. With the killing of Michael Brown taking place four days before I left, I was concerned about missing updates about the case. And was also worried about missing all the randomness of twitter and Instagram. But I was definitely thankful that I would be away from the nausea that is Facebook.

I never thought of myself as someone who depended on social media. But before leaving for Panamá I realized I was, and I still am. In comparison to others, I may not tweet a lot or post that many pictures. But Twitter and Instagram have quickly become my past time. So the thought of not having the option to login while in Panamá had me a little worried.


Thursday, October 2, 2014

"Hair"- Elizabeth Acevedo

I am a fan of anyone who can use their creativity to express themselves, and use it to speak/educate people about their culture and who they are. Not only is it inspiring, but it's also motivating. And that is exactly what Elizabeth Acevedo's poetry does for me. 

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Bandz A Make Her Dance: Examining Hip Hop's Strip Club Love


A throwback from 2012...

Money, cars, women, liquor, clothes, and jewelry. For many years these items have been constant themes in Hip Hop music. It’s very rare to hear a rapper not mention one of those topics in their music or not feature all of them in their videos. Some would even go so far as to say one cannot have a hit without having a song based on one of those themes.  

As Hip Hop music continues to grow, one theme has started to take precedence over the others; the strip club. The strip club is certainly not a new topic in Hip Hop, as artists have been rapping about it forever.

Within the last couple of years it seems the actual strip club itself, and all that goes along with it, is fair game in Hip Hop now. It certainly has become the go-to topic for a hit record. There are even rappers that say they make music specifically for the strip club; with lyrical content that is solely based on things that happen there. With Hip Hop being such a masculine enclave, it’s no surprise “Strip Club Culture” is taking over.

But where did Hip Hop’s fascination with the strip club come from? Luke and the 2 Live Crew might be a good start. We could even classify them as the originators of strip club music, or booty music as they called it. The crude lyrical content on their 1989 album “As Nasty As They Wanna Be” created much condemnation. It even caused group members to get arrested for breaking Florida State obscenity laws. The album was deemed legally obscene and was banned from radio stations and retail stores. The controversy that surrounded this album brought awareness to the role that the First Amendment plays in Hip Hop music.

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Material Girl: Temporary Fashion Tattoos




You have to excuse my tardiness of this trend and for posting this right as summer is coming to end. BUT, I love this idea. As someone who constantly goes back and forth about wanting a new tatt, 
I've often said I wish I could have a temporary one for a few weeks. Kind of like a trial run. 

Well that exactly what these fashion temporary tattoos are. Plus, their super stylish and are great accessories- and y'all know I love my accessories!


Tuesday, September 23, 2014

I Write


"Writing is an extreme privilege but it's also a gift. It's a gift to yourself and it's a gift of giving a story to someone."- Amy Tan


My biggest pet peeve is when people are unaware of their tone of voice. Regardless of what their saying, their tone is what I always respond to. And often times it will shape how I respond to them. But the opposite holds true for my writing.

A few years back, I attended a writing class in which we always read our pieces out loud. I would listen to my classmates’ pieces and think, "Wow, these people write so beautifully. I wana write like that too." Their work was filled with these big words that I’d never heard. And their sentence structures literally made their words sing. 

Thursday, September 18, 2014

Starting Over At 30


When I started college I couldn’t figure out what to declare as my major. I just knew I wanted it to lead to a fun career. I didn’t want to get stuck in a job that I hated.

After taking a required public relations class I found myself interested in the field and decided to pursue it. I spent the summer after graduation applying for many PR positions only to end up not finding anything. After a three month long job hunt, I got a position at an advertising agency. Although I had no interest in the position, I accepted it for the money.

After two years on the job I was not happy and started looking for something new. No longer interested in PR, I didn’t know what to apply for.

Day after day I went to work feeling trapped and unstimulated. Feeling like I had no other options; the dislike for my job was on my mind so much that I stressed myself out and ended up in the hospital for three days. This was literally the darkest period of my life.

Read more: Here

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

I Could Be Wrong, But...


The older I get the more I realize that our viewpoints are shaped by things that we saw while growing up. For example: if you grew up in an area where the police were corrupt and untrustworthy, as an adult, your image of all police officers will most likely be negative. This logic can be applied to many other things, including our perceptions of people who are of a different race and culture than our own.

Now on to my point: The other night someone posted a comment online saying parents should not let their children get fingerprinted by the police. Their reasoning against this was that the child's fingerprints go into the police database. And if the child commits a crime in the future, the police can find them quicker because they already have their fingerprints.

If I ever have a child and the police are conducting fingerprinting, me and mine will be FIRST in line.

Friday, September 12, 2014

Keep Encouraging Yourself



Encouragement is all around us. It can be found in one simple word, within a lengthy conversation, or through an act of kindness. My main source of encouragement comes from seeing those around me doing well and prospering. And with constantly seeing all the different endeavors discussed and promoted on social media, there’s rarely a time when I don’t feel encouraged by the determination of others.

But every now and then there are those occasions when anger sets in. Instead of feeling that push of inspiration to keep going, I see others prospering and wonder, “How are they winning while I continue to struggle?” Then I start comparing my path to that of others.

Because I am usually encouraged by what I see, encouraging myself is something I often forget to do. I am a creature of habit. I am the type to go through the motions of knowing exactly what has to be done daily. My mindset is always, this is what I have to do so let me get it done. But sometimes going through the motions, in addition to seeing others prosper, takes a toll on me. It also causes me to lose focus of why I’m pushing so hard, and then I think about giving up. 


Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Malika Favre


If you've been following my latest music posts you've probably noticed I'm loving the R&B artists from across the pond. Malika Favre is another person that I'm adding to that list. But instead music, Malika is an illustrator; who explains her work as being "about paring things down as much  as possible. I try and get to the essence of my subject by using as few lines and colours as it needs to convey the core idea."


Thursday, September 4, 2014

I AM Photo Project



"In August 2013, a few weeks after the verdict for the murder of Trayvon Martin, I found myself reflecting on my life experiences as a black man and the conflict between who we are versus who people think we are.  A year later with the murder of Mike Brown, I find myself in the same position. Despite how we define ourselves, we are often misunderstood and misjudged.  Our identifies are too often limited by our complexions, the style of our clothes, the music we listen to, the side of the law we stand on, the mood of the cops we encounter, and the history of our struggles for citizenship in our own country.  Yes, we are black men, but before that we are human.
This photo project is a year-long effort to capture the identities of black men across the country. Through the project, I share just a snippet of how we define ourselves: fathers, sons, friends, artists, teachers, men full of passion and love… the list goes on. I ask you to see us as we see ourselves." -Tesfa

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

I Have to Stay Here


"New York, New York big city of dreams."
When I first moved to NYC, almost two years ago, I had somewhat of a seamless transition (you can read about it Here). Of course I experienced challenges that everyone deals with when moving across the country, but overall I honestly felt like I'd made the right decision. I was excited for all the endless new possibilities- friends, love, and career. Having lived in California my entire life, I had no idea what NYC would be like. But I was ready, I was determined to make it.

Within my first year I'd grown so much personally and professionally. Even though I moved here with my set plans, things took a serious left turn- which actually turned out to be the RIGHT turn. But again, regardless of the setbacks and changes, NYC never broke my spirit. I was confident in my decision to move here. It was the first time in my life that I did NOT do what I was "supposed to do." I did what I wanted to do.


Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Vacation!!!!


I'm going to Panama! All new blog post will start again after Labor Day! 



Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Lessons Learned From Living Alone


While growing up I always had my own room and my own space, so imagine the adjustment period I went through when I had to deal with college roommates. Although my dorm life experience wasn’t too bad, I longed for the day when I could have my own space again.

After graduating it was no surprise that I set out to live alone. I loved that I could come home from a night out and turn on all the lights and blast music. It was the best feeling in the world not having to worry about being quiet because someone was sleeping or studying. And on the flip side if I wanted to sleep in all day or go to bed early, I didn’t have to deal with noisy roommates. No one could tell me anything because I decided what happened in MY apartment.

People would often ask me if I ever got bored or lonely. Of course I did. Often times I would come home from work and wish I had someone to talk to about my day. In addition, I hated that I didn’t have anyone to split the bills with or share the cleaning duties.


Monday, August 11, 2014

Twitter Hashtags are very necessary


For me, twitter has always been two things: One, a way to network and meet new people. Two, find out what's going on in the world (no matter the topic). And this was exactly the case when I logged on this past Saturday night. Just coming off a great bloggers’ brunch hosted by Erica of Everything EnJ. I took to twitter to follow all the lovely ladies I'd met that afternoon. In doing so, my timeline was filled with tweets about Michael Brown, an 18-year-old black man who was fatally shot by a Ferguson, MO police officer.

As with most things that become a major topic of conversation on twitter, a hashtag (#mikebrown) was being used. On Sunday morning Michael’s death was still being discussed on twitter. People were sharing their opinions on everything from how black men need to act when dealing with police officers, to the sad truth that this is our new reality- which actually isn't new at all.

Thursday, August 7, 2014

Sometimes Our Presence is Enough


In my early twenties I had a strong desire to start a mentoring relationship. Thinking back, I can’t remember where this desire came from or what impact I thought I could have on a young girl’s life. But I followed through with my feelings and signed up to be a mentor with my city’s local program. The program I became involved in wanted mentors to commit to a teen for four years; to provide support for the mentee’s entire high school career. I thought this was an excellent idea because I would get to see my mentee grow and transition into her adult life.

I started the mentoring relationship envisioning me and my mentee becoming close. I saw us having a legit big sis, little sis relationship. I wanted to be someone she could come to for anything. And I wanted to teach her things and show her new experiences that would make a lasting impression on her life.


Tuesday, August 5, 2014

You Should Be Listening To: Jessie Ware



Since being introduced to the music of Elli Ingram, I have been somewhat obsessed with singers from across the pond. Maybe it's their accents or the fact that they are doing the R&B music that I once loved and dearly miss from the 90's. My latest favorite is Jessie Ware.

Thursday, July 31, 2014

What's your Essence

“I believe that each of us has an essence, a quality at the very core of our being that makes us who we are. It’s what sets us apart from everyone else. And I believe that finding ways to express that essence is one of the greatest joys in life.” – Oprah for “O” Magazine, 2012


I didn’t always know what my essence/passion was. The desire to figure it out never came until after I graduated from college and started working at an advertising agency. Right from the start I knew the job wasn’t for me, but I took it because I needed the money. 

My job did not feed me in any way other than physically; I didn’t grow or learn anything while I was there. I was so unfulfilled that I dreaded going to the office. While there I would go through the motions of doing the mundane duties that were required, and still managed to advance. With that, my paycheck continued to increase, but as we all know, money does not buy happiness. 


Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Material Girl: Summer Favs!

If you've been following this Material Girl series then you've probably noticed I'm an accessories kind of gal. So it only makes sense that some of my favorite things this summer include super reasonably priced purses and jewelry. Most importantly these items are not only summer friendly, but will also transition well into fall.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Mi Pollera Tan Bonita

Dressed in a large colorful flowing skirt and top, tons of jewelry, and a head full of gold and pearls is how I spent many Saturdays of my childhood. And even though I was accustom to wearing mi pollera, I had no idea how significant it was to my parent’s home country of Panamá.
My parent’s generation was the first to come to the U.S., and they did their best to teach my generation about Panamá’s history and culture. That involved all the kids learning and performing Panamanian Típico dances.
Tamika_Burgess_Mi_PolleraPanameña Tamika Burgess grew up performing Panamanian Típico dances (Image: Tamika Burgess)
Twice a month mi mamá and mis tías gathered everyone together to learn Típico and various things about Panamá. All of us kids dreaded spending our Saturdays doing this. We were young, so the importance of what we were learning didn’t matter to us.
After months of practicing we learned full dance routines and started performing at cultural events. For these performances we wore traditional Panamanian clothing: polleras for the girls, montunos for the boys.
Mi pollera was orange and white, and was trimmed with dark green ribbon. With detailed embroidery and handmade lace; la pollera is an off the shoulder blouse and a two piece skirt. Wearing mi pollera was like playing dress-up; it was the only time mi mamá would let me wear lipstick. Adding to the playing dress-up fantasy was all the gold jewelry that I got to wear.
Read More: Here

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

When Women Get Desperate For Love- Should We Settle?


When it comes to our hair, nails, education and career us women demand the best for ourselves. Yet for some reason when we hit our late 20's and early 30's desperation for our mister right makes us settle for a random mister right now. Why do we do this? If we are not compromising on other things, why compromise on the person we intend to spend the rest of our lives with?

Even though we know settling is not ideal, many of us go through a phase where we contemplate settling or we willingly decide to settle. One of the main reasons we do this is because everyone around us is either in a relationship or is married. Instead of waiting for or seeking out the man we want, we get desperate and enter into relationships just to say we’re in one.


Friday, July 18, 2014

I'm Not A Club Girl and It's Okay


Having lived in NYC for almost two years now, I’m proud to say I haven’t been to any clubs. Lounges, bars, and house parties, absolutely. But clubs just don’t appeal to me. And to be completely honest, they never really have.

My 19th birthday brought about my first club experience. I had a good time dancing and meeting new people. But after the night was over, I didn't have the overwhelming feeling of wanting to go back; so I never did.

That was until I went to college in Los Angeles. With Hollywood being only 30 minutes away, clubbing was a must, and it quickly became a Thursday-Sunday activity. I fell into the habit of going for one reason: I thought it was what I was supposed to do.

Read More: Here

Thursday, July 17, 2014

4 Healthy Additions For Your Daily Routine


Seems like people are more aware of the things they are drinking and eating now more so than ever before. So with the recent onslaught of going vegan, and eating organic or natural; I took some time to research the benefits of making a few healthy additions to my daily consumption. Out of all my research the following four are the additions that I have incorporated. 

1. Apple Cider Vinegar Drink: Mixing two tablespoons of organic Apple Cider Vinegar into a glass of water is simple, and actually doesn’t taste that bad. After drinking it for a few weeks, I am use to the vinegar smell and I have no problem drinking the mixture. 

Benefits:                              
+ Maintains proper body pH balance
+ Helps clear up skin blemishes
+ Regulates blood pressure
+ Contains acid that acts as anti-fungal and anti-bacterial


Read More: HERE


Tuesday, July 15, 2014

What's The Best Solution For This?


I'm so conflicted on this whole immigration situation that is currently taking place along Mexican-U.S. boarders. I still don't know/understand all the details, but every day I watch CNN's coverage of this and I honestly don't see how the situation will ever get better.

I grew up in Murrieta, CA- the city that seems to be having the most resistance toward the immigrants being bused in. And as someone whose parent's migrated here from a Central American country, I can understand each group's side of the issue.


Thursday, July 10, 2014

Food For Thought ~ Part 3


  1. When someone tells you, “You’ve changed,” it might simply be because you’ve stopped living your life their way.
  2. Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.
  3. Be happy.  Be yourself.  If others don’t like it, then let them be.  Happiness is a choice.  Life isn’t about pleasing everybody.
  4. When you’re up, your friends know who you are.  When you’re down, you know who your friends are.
  5. Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.
  6. If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn't eat him.
  7. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.
  8. The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention.
  9. Many people are so poor because the only thing they have is money.
  10. Learn to appreciate the things you have before time forces you appreciate the things you once had.

Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Having The Confidence to Go Out Alone


“What would people think? Would they assume I was lonely and had no friends?” These questions ran through my mind one night as I texted several friends to see if they were free for the evening.

I had been craving a nice meal all week and when I couldn’t find anyone to go to dinner with, I started entertaining the idea of going alone. But when thoughts of what other people would think and say about me popped into my head, I quickly banished the idea, eventually ordering a pizza and staying in for the night.

This was my life four years ago. Back then I applied that way of thinking every time I wanted to go somewhere. Whether it was to a restaurant, the movies, a museum or anywhere else, if I didn’t have anyone to go with, I wouldn’t go. I was truly afraid of what others thought of me. And that way of thinking caused me to miss out on a lot of things that I wanted to do. 


Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Learning to Have Female Friendships


“I can’t trust a woman that doesn’t have close female friends.” I overheard a woman say while I browsed through Macy’s shoe department. I looked around and saw a woman looking at shoes as she talked on her cell phone. Although her comment was not directed at me, I cringed because she was in fact talking about me.

At the time I was 26 years old and didn’t have a solid group of girlfriends. But did that make me untrustworthy? The lady on her cell phone didn’t know me or my situation, but what she said that day stayed with me for a while.  

I grew up in a small tight-knit community and the friendships I made in elementary school lasted throughout high school. So when I got to college and had to make new friends, I figured friendships would form naturally as they did so many years prior. But college was different. Throughout my four years there I experienced a bunch of back-stabbing and cattiness with so-called female friends.


Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Proyecto Más Color




Last Saturday I attended the 2nd Annual Afro-Latino Festival in Brooklyn!!! While there I had the pleasure of meeting two sisters who started a Campaign called Proyecto Más Color (Project More Color). This is an awareness campaign to promote more representation of Afro-Latinos on such Spanish networks as Telemundo and Univision.