Wednesday, June 10, 2015

On Hiatus

I'm taking some time off from blogging to work on some other projects and of course live my life and enjoy the summer. As of right now I plan to be back after the 4th of July, but I may extend this hiatus until after Labor day.

Either way, I will not leave you without my opinion and things that catch my attention. This will be done via The Essence of Me's Facebook page. This is where I will repost and comment on things that I normally would blog about.

Chat with you soon!

Saturday, June 6, 2015

Black Latina Movement

A few months after moving to NYC, I attended Black Latina (the Play). The characters' story lines were so real and relatable that I became an instant fan of the play and the women behind it.

Crystal Roman, Founder of the Black Latina Movement (BLM), is doing something really special and unique. From the play and a series, to tours and other productions, this collective is creating entertaining content, all while educating the masses about Black Latinas.

"We dedicate the Movement to exhibiting the beauty and harmony 
of both African and Latino cultures..."

Because I love everything BLM is doing, I am very excited to share this interview. In which I chatted with Crystal Roman about BLM's productions, purpose, and future plans.

Thursday, May 28, 2015

"Fist to Five"

At my job we do this thing called, "Fist to Five." Similar to thumbs up or down, "Fist to Five" is a way to share how you're feeling with a fist being terrible and five being great. For as long as I've been at my current job whenever we do this, I honestly always have a five, every single time. This was an important realization last week when we did it, because years prior I would have faked my answer and was faking my happiness.

I faked it for various reasons: my job was not fulfilling, I had no direction in life, I had the wrong people around me, and I had no drive or determination to complete things. Yes, I had plenty of things I dreamed about doing, but never thought about actually putting in any effort into doing them.

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

Writing is My Therapy

I write professionally and for pleasure, but most importantly I write for peace of mind. Similar to going to a therapist and sharing problems and issues with an unbiased person, writing offers me the same benefit. My journal is filled with feelings and situations that I had to get out of my head, so I could feel a release and be able to move on.

But there are certain topics I dread writing about. For one in particular, I know exactly what I want to write; I even have it outlined in my head. But to sit and put pen to paper or fingers to keys has been an internal battle for years.

This issue of “allowing” -without actual consent- people to label me has been something I’ve dealt with all my life. One particular label- “Tamika, you’re mean,” has stayed with me for years. I am no longer bothered by people who may feel that way about me. But at one time in my life having that label placed on me (by extended family members) shaped my personality. It even caused me to become reserved, hiding my true feelings so I wouldn’t have to hear those three words.

Read More: Here

Thursday, May 21, 2015

Stop Stalling and Get to Work

If you've been following this blog for any amount of time, then you've probably noticed I write a lot about inspiration. I have covered this topic on all levels: from how I inspire and how others inspire me, to where inspiration can come from. But there comes a time when inspiration has to remain just that, and you have to start putting in the work.

I had to remind myself of this last week. You see, I’m the type to get super organized and have all the necessary materials and be completely prepared for whatever task or project I plan to start. But lately my problem has been putting in the work. Again, I’ll find all kinds of inspiration and will be motivated to do something. But when it comes to the actual process of doing it, something happens. I get lazy, distracted, or I get in my own way. I don’t know why I allow this to happen to me. This feeling of resistance arises when writing of any aspect comes about. And this has me scared. Scared that I won’t meet my personal deadlines.

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Peek into the Life of Tamika Burgess

Your personal guide to winning at life right now?
Live in the moment. For years, I spent my life waiting for the next big thing to happen. I would always say, “Well once this happens, I’ll be happy.” Or, “Once this is over, everything will be okay.” And then when those things happened, I moved on, only again to find myself saying those same exact things regarding a new situation. I have learned that there will always be something. And because of that I have to live in the moment. I have to experience my life as it's happening and not be so worried and focused on what may or may not come.

Read my full interview: Here  

Thursday, May 14, 2015

"The Blacker the Berry"

by: Craig Carpenter
It sometimes seems a requirement, especially in a city as large and diverse as New York, to claim belonging to one of society's sub-groupings, or tribes, as some might call them. As a means of identity, it's important because these groupings help us, individually and collectively, to determine a sense of culture, beliefs or preferences. Often through visual cues, or by inference, these serve to create a kind of order out of Babel's confusion. Several months ago, I made the acquaintance of one of my tribe -- Tau Battice, a photographer whom I'd met through Instagram and whose work I'd come to respect and admire, as we navigated the throngs leaving a performance at SummerStage at Central Park. Another friend was with me, another tribesman, and he recognized Tau from photos on Instagram. There were no indicators that we belonged to the tribe of photographers, but we immediately bonded, the three of us, in a discussion of art, culture and politics -- naturally, the things that bring New Yorkers together. We spoke that afternoon into evening, literally for three hours. As he and my other friend, Ken are West Indian, there were plenty of well illustrated stories shared, and the impromptu meeting has turned into a very cool friendship.